Thought;Distortion

“He was created for me. No one can be compared to him”;All-or-nothing “This decision was wrong. From now on none of my decisions could make me happy.”;Perfectionism “Once I made a wrong choice, so I am now going to make mistakes all my life”;Overgeneralization “I don’t understand anything about relationships. I can’t built relationships.”;Labeling “I didn’t marry John so I will stay alone and unhappy for the rest of my life. I won’t have friends, everyone will abandon me.”;Catastrophization “The fact, that John was an alcoholic, took drugs and was married 6 times, doesn’t mean that we couldn’t have been happy together.”;Magnification/minimization “All my girlfriends are married. Without John I will never be as happy as they are.”;Comparison “My mom is constantly reminding me that I missed the only opportunity to be happy. She is saying that I made a mistake but letting him go.”;Noncritical acceptance of critique “I date other men, but it doesn’t mean anything. They are not really interested in me, because they know that I am stupid.”;Selective vision of a situation “If I am as good as the others are saying, why did John leave me?”;Disqualifying or discounting the positive “John should have known how I feel about him. I didn’t have to say anything.”;Mind reading “The fact that I was not completely honest with John and he found out about Tom has nothing to do with him leaving. He just didn’t like me.”;Personalization “I will never be happy. I will never find anyone else.”;Predicting Future “I should have been more understanding. I shouldn’t have though just about myself, and only about him.”;”Should”and “must” statements “I know, that I will never be happy. I feel it. I know it.”;Emotional reasoning

Thoughts;Distortion

“There is only one way to achieve success. I lost my chance, and therefore will never be successful.”;All-or-nothing “I haven’t become the President of my company, and nothing else will make me happy.”;Perfectionism “Once I already made the wrong choice and now I will have to deal with unsuccessful career.”;Overgeneralization “I am a looser”;Labeling “I will always be an outsider. I will never succeed at anything. People will turn away from me.”;Catastrophization “The fact that I was not interested in Law and I didn’t have money for Law school, shouldn’t have stopped me.”;Magnification/minimization “All other people are successful in life. They are more successful than I will ever be.”;Comparison “My wife tells me that I lost my chance. She is sure that I am a looser.”;Noncritical acceptance of critique “The fact, that I am making a lot of money at my current job, and have benefits means nothing.”;Selective look at the situation “I like my work, but…”;Disqualifying or discounting the positive “I know what they think about me. They thing that I am a looser.”;Mind reading “I know when my colleagues are talking about attorneys, they are implying that it’s a shame that I never went to Law school.”;Personalization “I am not going to succeed. Why? I don’t know.”;Predicting future “I should have taken care about my career when I was younger. I should have known that I will need a law degree.”;”Should” and “must” statements “Nothing is out there for me, I feel it, I know it.”;Emotional reasoning